It is not easy to trust your kids with someone even if it is your mother or mother-in-law. It takes a lot of trusts to allow somebody else to watch your kids while you run your errands. A mother banned her husband’s mother from visiting her daughter alone after she betrayed her while babysitting her daughter.
The mother explained that she had cultural differences with her husband’s family from the start but let it go for the sake of happiness and peace of the family. But when it comes to her children then she would not allow anyone to violate her trust even her mother-in-law. One day when the mother left her daughter with her mother-in-law to run some errands, she felt violated and hurt on coming back home after seeing what her mother-in-law had done.
The mother shared on Reddit that her mother-in-law wanted her to get her newborn baby’s ears pierced when she was just 3 months old and she disagreed with it. She believed that it was a decision that her daughter can take herself when she was old enough rather than taking it on behalf of her.
She shared that “I told my mother-in-law this, every time she pestered me (pretty much from the time I was post-labor and she came to visit me in the hospital). My husband agreed with me.” She thought the matter was resolved but when she came home, she knew that it wasn’t.
She further shared “Mother-in-law kept them out a bit later and when she returned…my daughter had pierced ears. She said she had my sister-in-law (husband’s sister) do them. She’s done them for all the babies in the family and it was tradition.” She further explained that this angered both her and her husband who argued with his mother before she left.
Her husband and she agree that they won’t leave their kids alone with his family and the family disagrees on it. The mother took it on Reddit to know whether she overreacted to the situation or not. One person wrote: “Your children not hers. If she can’t respect the decisions you and your husband make then she isn’t fit to babysit.”
Another came in their defense and wrote: “That is absolutely NOT OKAY. It’s not like oh she painted your kids’ nails and that washes off. No, she put HOLES in YOUR BABY’s ears.” Another wrote: “The mother-in-law went behind your back when you explicitly said you don’t want your kid’s ears pierced which is not ok. If she can’t be trusted to follow your simple instructions, she shouldn’t be allowed to watch your children.”
Many agreed on their decision and believed that if the mother trusted her kid with her mother-in-law then her mother-in-law should not have breached her trust like that. Especially when they had talked about the issue of ear piercing and they agreed on waiting out. They agreed that their baby daughter would herself decide when to get her ears pierced.